#网友语录 人生若梦为欢几何 看着我对象的背影 觉得真的好喜欢。他自己省省的 却主动一直给我钱。所以我反而不会问他要钱，给多少全凭他自己意愿。我也不乱用，存在我们一起的账户里。（愿你俩纯纯傻傻的爱情永葆青春

夜里11点。外面在下雨。下雨天睡觉天，现在就睡！

@26684 KP: What is your advice for the people of Ukraine?

KvH: Whenever I leave somebody, I say, “Stay safe.” That’s the most important thing. But for me, keeping up the spirit is at least equally important, because in the very end, it’s the spirit that decides over victory or defeat.

Weapons can help, but it’s the spirit that truly matters. That’s the spirit you can feel in Ukraine on many levels. Sometimes, of course, it’s missing, but on many levels, you can feel it – and it’s the spirit that has kept people going. #网摘

@26684 KvH: One thing I’m very glad about in Austria is that we still have compulsory military service. I think that’s very important, just to have some experience in that field. If you look at a country like Switzerland, you cannot have a career in civil service or certain other sectors unless you have had a military career, even in the reserves.

I think that’s a very good thing, because the military does not only take – it also gives a lot. It provides experience, leadership skills, understanding of group dynamics, and many other things that are also very important in other parts of life. #网摘

#网摘 KvH: One also has to look back at previous wars. One of the most amazing pieces of fake information that Russia keeps putting forward is this notion of Russian invincibility: unlimited reserves, unlimited personnel. That’s absolute nonsense.

If you look at the track record of wars in the past, Russia was not exactly successful. Whether you go back to the Russo-Japanese War, World War I, World War II, or the war with Finland, Russia lost again and again. This invincibility just does not exist, and they’re also going to lose in Ukraine.

I think the chances for Ukraine are pretty good, but it’s an extremely hard and long road.

<https://www.kyivpost.com/post/66157>

Kyiv Post

A Warning Against Appeasement – Interview With Karl von Habsburg (Part II)

In the second of this two-part interview, Karl von Habsburg explains why Vladimir Putin’s strategy of “sitting on bayonets” can never win out, and his advice for the people of Ukraine.

#网友语录 安子 痛苦不是你经历了什么，
而是你的系统正在以某种格式播放它。
格式能改，痛苦就降。（我对此深有体会。一件“坏事”只是打破了你的预期。登山走错了路让我看到别样（预期之外）的风景。就是车子抛锚也给生活添加了情趣。没有什么坏事是单纯的坏事。

咸鱼的我一顿操作，还是拿到了冬至牌子。

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花絮：虽然是周一，但大家显然已经进入圣诞模式，没有几个人上班了。一个遛狗的老大爷看见我把自行车停在桥边，对着手机比比划划，关切地问：“Are you ok？” 我对他笑笑 all good 。老大爷半信半疑的走了。过了五分钟，他又看见我在另一个地方对着一串灌木丛看手机。“Are you lost?”， “No, no, no. I am just playing a location based game." lol

老大爷大笑，然后放心的牵着狗走远。😂

在另一个地方，我把自行车停好，炸附近的几个蓝军portal。正往回（停自行车的地方）走的时候，遇到几个遛狗的女子，其中一个关切的问带着自行车头盔的我“那边那个自行车是你的吗？”我说，是啊是啊。

“这就对了，我还以为是谁的自行车被偷了扔在哪里。” lol 大家一起笑。

#网友语录 Polebug 最近发现自己成长了不少。以前的我受到别人的诽谤，会拼命地想要自证、解释、澄清“我没有”。

但现在的我，不会再会想要这样做。

一是我发现当事人们并不在意你有没有这样做，他们只是在寻找一个“替罪羊”，给一切找一个合理化的理由。

二是我意识到别人对我的看法，其实并不重要。重要的是，今天的工作、生活、有没有吃好睡好、看了什么书、有没有保持思考。至于别人要怎么看我，让他们慢慢琢磨去吧～

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只是我很难过，我的“路见不平拔刀相助”，最后被别人当枪使。我以为我在扶一位跌倒的伙伴，没想到最后被指：“是你推了我”。

笑一下就算啦～

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#小菜园 今天收了两个萝卜，一个西葫芦
#纽西兰

Here's a funny trick you can use to soften your delivery. Imagine that you're talking to a friend instead of your partner. Most of us listen to our friends more closely, and we have lower expectations and more patience for them. We tend to give them the benefit of the doubt, and we don't get as triggered by what they say or do. Imagine one of your best friends in front of you when you're talking to your partner, and watch your communication transform. This is a fun hack to play with, and it's surprisingly effective in the moment!

Here are a few other ways to start softly:

- Keep your tone calm and even.
- Be aware of your facial expressions and body language, and try to convey relaxation.
- If you're open to it, hold hands or touch while you talk. A little bit of physical contact reminds you of your love for each other.
- Make sure your first few sentences are particularly kind and open.

4: USE "I" LANGUAGE

You've probably heard this one before; it's an oldie but a goodie. Instead of saying "You did this" or "You did that," talk about your personal reactions and experiences using "I" "me" and "my". So, instead of, "You never want to spend time with me," you say, "I've been feeling lonely lately, and I've been wanting to feel more connected to you." If you're feeling stuck, here's an easy framework to use: "I feel X, and I need Y. Notice how that worked in the prior example-I'm feeling lonely and I need more connection.

Using "I" language cuts defensiveness off at the pass. If you tell your partner, "You did this" it's going to feel like an attack to them, and it's likely to trigger an argumentative response like "No, I didn't!" But if you talk about your own experience, it's less likely to inflame that defensiveness.

This also helps you identify the feelings that are coming up for you. Your feelings are what need tending to when you're upset, not the actual details of what happened.

#书摘 Sex Talks

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本来计划喝完库存就戒掉咖啡。可是在今天这个清冷（字面意思）的早上，这杯泛着沫儿的速溶咖啡却带给我别样的温暖感觉。我突然不想戒咖啡了。

#网友语录 不知何处是他乡 新西兰华侨jeff同学告诉我，他的家乡南宁便宜、好吃、好玩。听人劝吃饱饭，体重证明我特别爱听人劝。
​到了南宁10元能买啥？15根玉米，11个脐橙或者6斤沙糖桔。40个大馅馄饨16.5能把我们俩撑死。餐厅不仅便宜，也的确好吃。连吃三顿馆子，意犹未尽。最惊奇的是汤包，江南主打美食，广西吃起来......说实话稍差，但也能得8分。

​青秀山，南宁市民公园，今天只转了景色最差的西门部分，已经很满意了。

#想去

#网友语录 piglei

最近有两个认知上的小转变，让我感觉自己又更适应了 Agent 编程一丁点：

1. 我可以，甚至应当用非常细节（精确到函数起名和参数）的方式去指导 Agent 做事，这听上去非常不酷，感觉跟直接写代码差不多，但如果这样能节约时间，就是有价值的，并且 review 这种由精确指令驱动的改动，对我的大脑负担更轻。
2. 我可以让 Agent 去干一个活，最后一行代码都不使用，只是看它怎么干，把这当成一种输入，启发我找到最好的实现。

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#小菜园 已经实现黄瓜自由，各种四季豆（种了五种豆子）自由指日可待。图为三种豆子（红花，白花，东北油豆角）的花和黄瓜花。

#网友语录 Lita_ 发现这几年我在成长，爸妈也在成长…我们逐渐脱离了饲主和宠物的关系。变成了国家公园工作人员和野生动物的关系，工作人员偶尔用望远镜观察一下我在哪里，在干嘛，确定我还活着就行～至于我和哪只角马打架，迁徙路上有没有掉队，又看上了哪只长颈鹿…都问题不大～

#网摘 Marskay “原生家庭我们无法选择，the chosen family 可以重塑我们的人生。”和真正的朋友在一起，我们才能真正的长大，互相帮助也不再是一句空话。

晚饭是牛肉夹馍（牛肉碎+红洋葱碎+青椒碎）。太好吃了，以致原本没有意思的人生突然有意思了起来。感激。

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Simon Willison Coding agents replace the part of my job that involves typing the code into a computer. I find what's left to be a much more valuable use of my time. #网友语录

#网友语录 韩菜菜 算下来我都五进欧洲二进德国了。出国旅游只选欧洲。欧洲是发达国家，吃住行安全方便，欧洲人工作认真，大巴司机工作休息有严格的规定，让人放心。信不着其他地方，尤其东南亚，人都不着调，不靠谱。

#网友语录 waverOoO “如果有一天离我开了也有没关系，
千万物生中，我不回断来，
做你的朋友，做的你食物，
做路你边的小草，做在扑你脸的上风，
我们断不地重逢” (浪漫的人类